Toronto Imam Shabbir Ally gave an interview about women’s’ role toward the husband. It was uploaded In April of 2017.
For example you have Hadith that says if a man’s body were covered in sores from head to toe and his wife would you lick the pus out of the sores to cleanse them, then she still would not have fulfilled her duty to her husband.
Host: So just speaking on this one, I know that, well, I’ve heard of it as a weak narration, so is it possible that some of these problematic ideas, while there are many is there a common understanding that these are some of the weaker sources, or you think the challenge is that they exist and people still believe it
They are from the weaker resources, in fact, neither of these two are from bukhari and Muslim, which are the most authentic collections. But they are found in, for example, this last one about the prostration, it is found among the books which is known as Al-Sitta [six authentic books of Hadith]. They are viewed with some kind of expectation that they are authentic enough to be followed… The most recently, a celebrated Hadith scholar, Nasir Al-Din al-Albani, went through this Al-Jami’ as-Saghir by [Islamic scholar Jajaluddin from hundreds of years ago. Now he started to label the hadiths which ones are authentic and which ones are not, based on his expertise in testing these hadiths all over again, and this one comes out as authentic one… But you will find that to this day you have, for example, a website where people send their questions in. Muslims want to know about their belief in practice and the answers are given from an authentic perspective. Look, we are citing the Quran, we are citing the authentic Hadith. Never mind the weak Hadith here and this one is of the Hadith for example somebody asks what about this woman who is giving back talk to her husband. Well, the scholar comes out lashing at this woman with Hadith like this. The one about the prostrating before your husband. I mean if that were at all allowable. Following off with this about licking the puss out of the sores.
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Question: A wife is constantly arguing with her husband … What advice can you offer this couple, in particular the wife?
“’If a man were covered from head to foot with weeping sores oozing pus, and his wife were to come to him and lick his sores (to clean them), this would not fulfil the rights he has over her.’” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad, 12153; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 7725).
